It baffles me when you have a clearly asexual character and people erase that like “They’re not asexual. They just got other things they’re more focused on.” As if that’s not the peak asexual experience. The most asexual thing that can happen. Peak asexuality.
I’m not asexual. I’m just more focused on reading books. I’m not asexual. I’m just more focused on my career. I’m not asexual. I’m just more focused on my mental health.
AroAces are especially erased with this rhetoric. Of course they’re more focused on other things. You’re more focused on literally everything when you don’t experience sexual or romantic attraction.
Like I get the point the allos are trying to make. “When they complete their goal, they’ll start showing interest.” But it’s never a goal that’ll be like… complete. Like “Oh, she’s more focused on becoming a knight.” But then when she is a knight she’ll still be more focused on being a knight. Like you’re acting like life goals aren’t goals that are intended to expand across your entire life.
And if you do really experience attraction. Your life goals wouldn’t get in the way of that. You’d find relationships that fit with your dreams (just like you find friendships that fit with your dreams).
